When Alex wasn’t painting or building, he was recording stuff. He often asked me to hold the camera up to the car window to film the passing scenery. Sometimes he would be talking over it, others, it would just be ambient noise. I have photographic memory so I’ve always taken photos to remember, but this habit heightened when I met Alex, because being around him makes you realise that life is fucking amazing and moves so, so fast, you want to remember everything.
As I’m going through videos, I found this one which I had completely forgotten about. It’s from our trip to SF/Yosemite in August. Instead of driving straight back from SF, we decided to loop through Yosemite for some dinner amongst the trees. We sat together until it got dark, the dog on my lap snoozing, watching straggler cars drive by, and staring up at the sky as the stars glowed brighter. He started whistling, and talking to the universe for a long time. Then he stopped and asked for my phone and recorded this.
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This is the first time I’ve seen/heard it since he recorded it. We were already engaged then, but he asked me again shortly after he finished recording. As challenging as living with Alex could be at times, I would say yes again and again with no hesitation. He wanted to realise my dream of being proposed to in the woods under the stars.
He left us one week ago today. I wish he were here to feel all the love that’s being shared, to see everybody re-connecting and supporting each other. Thank you all for rallying for him, and making me feel loved and cared for. I’ve always believed that you are the company you keep, and you, his friends, his family are proof of that.